I know that this thing with her has NOTHING to do with me, but the complete lack of sensetivity regarding my feelings is so foriegn for him...it is so painfull, i feel like ive slid right back to the day i caught them in our bed...he kept texting me last night asking if I needed anything else from the house and if I had gotten everthing...i never answered him and he finally sent me a text "are you having a moment?"......I swear I thought my head was going to burst....the utter disregard is staggering...
Yep, the disregard will blow your mind. Early on in my sitch, my W told me explicit details about her sex life with OM. (Barf!) Also, she would watch me literally clutch my heart in pain as she told me reason after reason why OM was better than me, and say in a very cheerful, indifferent tone, "Oh, yeah, that's psychosomatic pain. It's normal."
Normal people -- people with hearts and functioning brains -- don't act like this. So consider such behavior as being very telling of just how WHACKED out of their minds they are. (Trust me, it has helped me keep my own sanity during a time when it seems like there is no sanity in the world.)
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I feel like now that he has his own new place the A will escalate..
It probably will. But it will also flare out that much quicker, too. Once that bright, passionate "head-over-heels" period goes by, there probably won't be much more to their R.
Abbey's right, go dark as soon as you can. You'll detach from their nonsense so much easier if your H is in your life as minimally as possible.
