Wife left

[workinghardguy]

1978... why does she sleep at your house for a few hours before your S wakes up? I'm confused. Are you shielding your S from the news, or is this some type of arrangement? I don't fully get it.

As far as the convo... at least you recognized that you backslid. Knowing is the first step, right? You're right that you shouldn't have volunteered and when she said no the first time you didn't need to go their twice. Work on trying to see things through her eyes. Here's this guy that she's already told she doesn't want to be with and he's so puppy-dogish that he'll even come get my new place ready for me. Does that seem attractive? It's like your saying "ah heck, I'm already down but please kick me would you?"

When my W and I were discussing things the last time she brought up having to move things to a new house. She inferred that I could help. I specifically told her I would be gone that day and we would figure out the kids so they didn't have to go through the move process, and that I'm sure she has family or friends who could help her but that I would not.

Yes the woman you love is in need... but she's in need because she put herself there! You owe her nothing as far as making this easy on her. There is a solution she can find if this gets too hard.