When our youngest daughter was 13, she was diagnosed (finally) as being bi-polar. I say finally as I knew it, but couldn't get a physician that would give a definitive diagnosis until she did something jail-worthy. She was sent to a school for bipolar teens for 6 months, and it was a terribly rough time in our life. All this to say that we did get through it. And my kids are here today saying I am the reason they made it through the tough times, although I always gave XH all the credit. Your son will see who has been there for him all the way, and are anything but the REASON their father S@@ks. That's on him.