Trying to make it to the bye week

[25yearsmlc]

I haven't checked your postings or been on this site since the last time I wrote you and something told me to check it today. I just want you to know you can't concentrate on what she's doing with him. Everything that is going on in her life doesnt matter, t-shirts, websites, etc. Those are set-backs... attempts from the devil to keep you off course.
I look at it like this... This OM came and took your W's mind, but you still have her heart and she has your heart. There is not one thing that OM can do that will steal her heart from you. You just have to help her regain her sense of direction, which is her mind.

The way to lead her is through Christ. Invite her to church with you, take it slow, keep it friendly and let God work in her life.


so sorry to disagree with such loving sounding advice, but MTS is not her h anymore. She divorced him and is with OM as far as we know. MTS must detach and at least appear to move on.

IMO, he has no control over her and any attempts by him "to lead her" will backfire.

Plus there is a strong chance, statistically, that she will never come back.

MTS must prepare for that, even while hoping she returns.

The longer MTS stays stuck pretending he has some control in this relationship, the worse off HE will be...prayer is good and I support that. But MTS ONLY controls MTS.

She's simply not in a position to pretend that he is her h ...in HER mind and heart, he is her buddy and good friend but is NOT the "right man for her"

and maybe not even the buddy she can rely to be waiting for her...




By taking these steps and leading her to God, you would be amazed what will happen. Trust me, her heart is fine, her mind is what is being manipulated and destroyed. No matter if she is your W or XW don't let go of her if you truly care for her not only in the physical but also in the spiritual. Take everyone else out of your M, friends, family, get rid of all the hearsay.

The girls that you are meeting will never compare to your W. In your heart you will still love her and will always feel empty because in a marriage two people become one and a part of you is now missing.

Lead her to a relationship with God like you have been led into a relationship with God and if your heart wants the marriage rekindled then by faith know that God will restore it. This is more than you and her, this is about her and God. And it's quite possible, that only you can help lead her to him.

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Take yourself out of the picture you will be okay, take her hand and lead her, [/b

you don't say "how" this is to be done. And it confuses me to say "take yourself out" and then tell him to control and lead her. I think this will be a spectacular setback for MTS...and that the only signs of her awakening at all, have happened after he gives her tons of space and begins to deal with the cards he was dealt....

Please do not confuse "standing for marriage" with standing still and being stubborn or not adapting to reality.

This is not about being right, but about being happy, and yes I believe that is God's will for us.

she needs you and God sometimes calls us as stewards to lead others. This is your opportunity to help her gain salvation. Please trust me in this...

MTS, I've read your entire thread. I wish it were the way cjackson says.

and Maybe it is...

but I've said my peace. Be well