The thing is about making the bed, she isn't living at home, she only sleeps here for a few hours until S wakes up. So its my side that is messed up. Same thing with the kids mess, if I leave it a mess I am the only one it hurts since she lives with her parents right now. I also don't want her to get that feeling like, "he can't even take care of himself and clean the house, how pathetic". I do get S to help pick up his toy. I feel cleaning is part of my 180, I mean I did plenty around the house, but because I never said "look what I did today" looking for approval, Not sure she ever really noticed.
M 33 W 29 S 4 M 5 T 7 11/7/11 Separation, W moves in with parents 12/1/11 W: "IDLY, I'm not coming back, it's over" 1/7/12 D Bomb Dropped
