NOT responding to him right away, and keeping your distance is a change he will see and notice. You did the right thing by declining his invitation. Make him pursue. Make him wonder. Build the respect.
The "Leap of Faith" conversation was pursuing -- it's ok, it happens. You want H to know that getting you back is not "for free" and not 100% on his terms. He needs to be faithful going forward, and you both need to agree on where the line is drawn in terms of friendships that are over the line.
Be tough! You said yourself that H has noticed your changes -- it sounds like he pointed that out to you, so it's working! Keep it up. Less is more.
Accuray
Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11 Start Reconcile: 8/15/11 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced) In a New Relationship: 3/2015
