The clutter issue is/was this for me: when in doubt, keep it
From watching the programs on TV, and from observing my H, there is always good intentions that it can be used in the future. I've read different rules of thumb about storing things, and some say if an item has not used in the past three years (or five....I can't remember), chances are slim it will ever be used again.
Good job at not trying to get her to notice your work. That can be difficult, especially if your love language is acts of service.
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I did not respond other than to say that I agreed that the situation was a problem. What I wanted to say was, let's do the renovation and get it fixed. Any suggestions?
My suggestion is that you speak about the renovation as if you are thinking of the market value. Your W might be more receptive if she doesn't feel you are using the renovation as a gateway to a future with her. If she thinks you may want to sell it, then she won't feel the need to discourage the process of renovating.
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I suspect my W's C is not on my side. They are meeting weekly. Any suggestions other than to roll with the punches?
Not much else you can do. If you try to discourage her from seeing this C, it could make her more determined to use this C.
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she told me that she wanted to talk about "some issues" the next day with me
Oh I know that had to be hard not to prompt her. When I hear a woman say she has an "issue", I think she's referring to something of a negative nature. So, it would probably be best not to remind her.
So, have you made any GAL plans for the week?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
