I wouldn't mind at all, but I don't know that I can give what you're look for.
You're right, every stitch is a bit different b/c some couples are young and raising their family, while others have been M several years and their children are grown. The stage of life the couple is going through plays a very big part in how quickly the WAS is able (or willing) to try being a kinder, more respectful, and considerate partner to their S.
I believe it may come in stages. Like, the W can work at not being obviously rude. Selfishness will probably be harder to over-come. Her coldness may be the last part of the rugged trail for her. But that's just me. I think it took a couple of years (after I ended the EA).
So, it takes a lot of grit & grace for the LBS to hang in there!
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
