A little background. I met my H at work, in fact he still works there. He pursued me even though at first I didn't give him the time of day.
I learned that he had 2 young children and was in the final stage of his D. (It just had to be paid for) We were friends and one day he came to me with reports that his XW was leaving his 2 boys home alone. (3 and 5) CPS had been called in. H took full custody of his boys. That's when I first started to fall in love with him.
We were married about a year later and the door was always open for visitation with the boys' mother. She and I had decided early on that we would get along for the kid's sakes and we did.
H and XW divorce was very much about money. She was a SAHM for most of their marriage and H worked 3rd shift. He handed her money to pay mortgage and bills. He came home one day and got the mail before XW. In it was a foreclosure statement on their house from the bank for non payment of mortgage. Anyway, H could not figure out what she was spending the money on as there was no evidence of anything for herself or the boys. He had some suspicions but never did figure it out for sure. Of course there were other problems as well. One time after we were married I was cleaning out behind H's shed (house he and X shared) and I found an old leather purse stuffed full of unopened bank statements. The amount that his X was spending behind H's back was staggering.
Snodderly, the debt sum that XW was talking to H's cousin was inflated a bit but in the ball park. I'm fairly sure it was true.
Anyway, he's using my debt that he had nothing to do with as far as taking care of it or affecting him as an excuse why he can't go forward with the D. It was none of his business or his XW's business either. Yet, it is spreading through my small town like wildfire. So yeah, WCW it hit a nerve.
