Husband Left...Part 2

[workinghardguy]

He'll notice them... in fact he'll notice them more when contact is occasional and not constant. It's one big weakness of trying to DB while still living together. You make incremental changes and in the whole we are changing a lot but each change is small and not so easy to notice.

I liken it to weight loss. I don't know if my W has really noticed it. Even my co-workers, who see me every day, haven't noticed it. But then the IT guy, who I haven't seen in like 4-5 weeks, sees me the other day and says "Wow... you look like a whole other person!". Or my SIL who I haven't seen in about two months tells me that I look like I've lost a lot of weight.

The every day people don't notice the changes because they happen so slowly and their mental image of us changes along with us, so no one change is dramatic. It's when their mental construct isn't constantly refreshed that the change is noticed because the reality and the construct don't match.

You will still see each other, interact, and do stuff. Your D will tell tales and stories. Publicize yourself on FB. Common friends and family will tell him. Don't worry... he'll know.