Workinghardguy and Accuray: Thank you for your opinion and advice. You are right, there is nothing that I can do about it. It's out of my control.
He has always felt that I tried and controlled him. I just felt that he was not honoring boundaries that marriage has.
Truthfully, I do not think this is a deal breaker for me either. Yes, it hurts like h3ll.
I need to start focusing more on my self and my D. Starting today I am cutting him off. I will not contact him, unless is regarding out D. If he texts/calls/emails me, i will not jump to reply or answer.
It's weird how all the WAS have the same patterns. See I was once a WAW, and I see my behavior in my H. He is treating me the way I treated my first husband. When I realized that I went to my first husband and I explained my situation and I apologize to him for putting him through what my second husband is putting me through.
My H and I did spend time together yesterday with our D. And we had long talk the entire time I was there. He told me he was scared to get back together because he is afraid that I will convert back to the old me. He said he has notice my changes and he liked it. He told me every time he would get a text message he afraid to see the look on my face. And if it was a look he didn't like, it would p1ss him off. I told him that he needed to take a leap of faith, just like I will have to take a leap of faith with him.
Yesterday, when we walking with our D, he yelled at me and I just said I'm sorry, I didn't understand what you were saying and I just walked away. He apologize for yelling at me.
But unfortunately I really don't see him working on himself.
