The more I think about it Hopeful he's got you right where he wants you. As soon as he's willing to flirt, he can have you back in his mind. That allows him to do what he wants, and still know that you're there for him. You need to yank that rug out from under him. Don't be there for him, don't be an easy catch. I can almost guarantee that if you get back together now with this track record, he will cheat again. You need to earn his respect, and you do that by standing up for yourself. When you stand up for yourself and DON'T do what he says or what he wants, he will get angry / upset, and you'll feel like you're doing the wrong thing because you will want to appease him. Don't do it and see what happens. Let him be angry with you and sulk.

A layer down he's actually building respect for you. It like the schoolyard bully who you stand up to and then becomes your friend, it's about respect. You will get that respect through some difficult interactions. Pretend that what he needs or wants doesn't matter to you at all. No matter what happens, you're going to be happy.

Accuray

Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced
M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11
Start Reconcile: 8/15/11
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced)
In a New Relationship: 3/2015