I'm going to follow your sitch closely. We are very similar.
1. I grew up in Boston. Huge Sox fan. But now live where the Cubs live (not a Cubs fan tho).
2. I have a 13 year old and a 15 year old. Similar to your childrens ages.
3. I busted my M a year ago. But my W is still the same. Short fuse, frustrated daily, yells constantly at the kids and me. Not warm or understanding.
Wife does not get along well with any of her friends, the girls in the heighborhood, her parents or sister, our kids, she was even fired at work just a month ago.
I am feeling myself drift again emotionally. Trying hard to hold on.
Good luck with your decisions. I envy your strength and confidence. Like you, I feel myself moving away from my wife... And it scares me.
Hoping the best for you.
M: 42 - W: 41 - M: 18 - T: 23 - D:16 S:14 EA - July 2010 NC w/EA - Nov 2010 Piecing - Jan 2011 I ask for div - Jan 2012 Div papers filed - Mar 2012 I move out - July 2012 Divorce final - Nov 7, 2012