It is DEFINITELY a chess game, and most of us learn the rules as we go. Val is right. You're overthinking (something I do constantly) Once you are home, there will be plenty of time to reassess the sitch. Read the article also about WAS somewhere on this site if you haven't.
Me (f): 45 W(f) 35 T: 13 y C: S4 adopted at birth 6-18-11 bomb: I want to break up 8-28-11 OW confirmed