Need HOPE & Advice

[Valeska19]

Pers,

I believe that she is planning a small welcome home party for me- Is this an olive branch, or do you think that she simply thinks that we can get divorced & then hang out n be best buddies?

It could be a range of things... that's why mindreading is a bad idea. Consider it a nice gesture, be appreciative, but don't attach expectations to any of it.

*Should I casually invite her to any of my GAL activities ( yoga or snowboarding/skiing for example)…. Or is this just for me.
I’m pretty sure that their isn’t OM… just issues that we ignored until she couldn’t stand it anymore. I truly am embracing the 180/ self improvement. Just praying that she she will eventually notice & change her mind about the D. This is tough- I have been interacting with her (by ph & email only until I get home)… interacting with her like she was a close co-worker or friend, no R talk at all. R topic hasn’t come up since shortly after the D bomb was dropped-

I think you may have to play this by ear a bit. Did you and your w spend all your time together or did she complain about not spending enough time together?

*Do I just go about my everyday business, acting like “house-mates” until she brings up the R or D topic? Someone suggested that I be pro-active and bring up the D subject & ask how soon it could get accomplished, to show her that I’m anxious to move on….. Sounds like bad advice to me. What do the DB Veterans think about that & inviting her to yoga some night?

Yes I think you do go about your everyday business. That doesn't mean acting like housemates.. it means acting as if things will be alright. How soon until you can read DB and DR?

If you don't want a Divorce, I HIGHLY suggest not pushing it Although parts of this is a chess game, do not make any huge move like that unless you are willing to live with the consequences.

Slow down a bit sweetie.. You're overthinking a little bit. Get yourself home safely and see what you are walking into when get back in the states.