PA - Confirmed - Blinkers are off.

[workinghardguy]

She put the rings back on today, maybe she just forgot them.

Or maybe since it got no reaction it wasn't worth the cognitive dissonance in her head.

got a peck and hug before she left (god I sound pathetic)

Well... yes, you do, but you're also human But since you know you sound pathetic, identify why it's pathetic and then what are you going to do about it? Earlier today when I was weeping because I knew if I told my w about my weight loss she wouldn't care I started with my breathing exercises to center myself. Once I was centered and calmer I remembered that the weight loss was for myself, my kids (so I'm a better role model and around longer), and then for her (or whomever comes along someday to take her place).

I think she still wants out regardless - to her the OM was a symptom of our problems.

Well... yes, the OM is a symptom of the problems. More a symptom of her problems - that actually believing the solution to a problem is to run away from it. Don't own the OM. She made that choice. You had a role in creating a M where that seemed like something worthwhile, but you didn't tell her to go have an A. She did that all by herself. And you're already owning your role in this so don't own the OM too.

It's also easier to leave than have to face the path of destruction she's left in her wake.