Ugh Hopeful, that's terrible. I'm so sorry to hear it. You really do need to cut H off -- no more affection of any kind. You REALLY need to make him pursue and work. Given all the lies he's told you, do you believe him about the condom? Be careful!

Accuray

Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced
M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11
Start Reconcile: 8/15/11
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced)
In a New Relationship: 3/2015