Whatis has hooked another one! We're working out time and place. She's a teacher...but not blonde. She was teaching me chat room short forms and it just happened, it's all a blur now lol.
We didn't do the serving papers thing. I got a copy of the papers in the mail -- which prompted to make the one phone call to XW that I regret making. After that call I called my lawyer and he contacted her attorney and had them sent directly to him.
Congrats on the teacher. The one thing that I've been trying to stick to is trying to find educated women. XW and I ran out of things to talk about a long time ago and just ended up always talking about the kids. She had no intellectual curiosity and I hate monotony.
That's why I'm really hoping this waiting game with prof-40 pans out.
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Thanks CTY, this is an interesting lady, pretty up front about what she wants. I actually only contacted her because I was curious about something on her profile. She'd written ^*^ are you? and I wondered what the heck that meant. So, I emailed her and asked. She responded that it was a chatroom smiley face symbol and gave me a link for all these web shortforms. I thought that was a nice thing to do. I noticed she'd also checked my profile. So I then emailed her about the length of her separation and her occupation. I usually don't bother with women who don't specify but she seemed nice and she was on my to do list, just at the bottom due to missing info. She responded to my questions and after a few back and forth emails I mentioned coffee and it was not a rush. She said she'd be OK with meeting "I'm OK with meeting a friend for coffee but don't expect more" In her profile she'd said "friends first which will eventually lead to a long term relationship" and that was most important to her. In her email she said she was very easy going and when she has a question about me she'll be very straight forward and ask it. I said all I expected was a nice "coffee date" with a nice lady and suggested a day, leaving time and place for her to suggest. She replied " I have to firm up my schedule and I'll get back to you, thanks...and this is not a date, it's a meeting." I replied " Gotcha! Good point :)". I like and respect people who are upfront like that, you know where you stand. We'll see, it should be interesting!
Wow - she sounds either A) paranoid or B) uninterested. I think the detached, "not too interested myself" approach is best. She sounds like a woman who would be easily scared off by enthusiasm.
(Which is not to say something can't happen if you play your cards right - I have a friend who can only allow herself to fall for a guy if she's convinced it can't ever work out - weird, huh?)
Plus - there's nothing wrong with just acquiring a few friends through this process - they might have some girlfriends they could introduce you to.
It's in her court for sure, I won't be chasing. She's certainly setting her boundaries right from the start. Who knows who she's encountered along the way. She certainly wants a low key, low expectation get together and there's nothing wrong with that. So we'll see.
Well, I ditched the teacher. As Kml said, all her interactions are just so unenthusiastic. She seems intent on making sure I know not to expect anything. Her last email felt a little over reactive to me. So, I decided I'm not driving across the city to meet someone who is probably looking for something different than I am. I emailed her "Hi, I think I'm going to pass on our meeting. In hindsight, I think we may be looking for different things. All the best and thanks again for the chatroom lingo :)" There are more enthusiastic fish in the sea!
Here's my new online dating profile, I'm trying the season approach and see what gifts it brings my way. You gotta experiment!:
Christmas has come early!
Santa has made an early delivery just for you. I come exquisitely wrapped, fully assembled and am ready to go…just add coffee! Santa has programmed me to be warm, caring, fun loving, trustworthy and above all, to put a smile on your face. I’ve got all sorts of fun apps for you to choose from, just check my list of interests. As an added feature, you can insert new and fun activities into the program as we go. Isn’t technology wonderful! This gift comes with Santa’s personal guarantee of satisfaction, so there’s absolutely no risk. What more could any lady ask for? So, drop me an email and let’s arrange a delivery time. P.S. remember to save the wrapping paper 'cuz Santa re-cycles!
A chat over Christmas cake and cider, make a ginger bread house together, decorate a tree in the park or maybe a cozy sleigh ride to the North Pole (just keep in mind that bookings are a little tight this time of year). But as a back up plan, coffee would also be an acceptable alternative. Whatever we're both comfortable with works for me.
A man can only go so far for love...and that's too far! I was going to mention I'd share my candy cane but re-thought that idea. I changed my P.S. from "remember to save the wrapping paper cuz Santa re-cycles" (sounded suggestive) to "And just so that you know, Mrs. Claus says I'm a "real catch"! I also added to our first date idea "find an orphaned elf a new home" It's a work in motion!
