I spent all night with XW..........on the phone

[angel61]

Tad, same thing as Ajay said went through my mind when I read your ost. When you keep an eye on her and wonder why, you are still not detaching.

Let her go. You need to work on:

1. Not trying to mind read - wondering what her motivation is for doing whatever she is doing.
2. Putting her out of your mind, tell yourself yu are not intereted in her antics
3. Anticipating her next move, trying to interpret her moves - like is it positive? negative? etc.
4. Acting in ways that you think will matter to her, especially when she is around.
5. Finding out what she is saying or doing with the kids. Unless it is very important, tell your kids not to talk to you abut their mom.

These are a few concrete examples for you. If you can work on one thing at a time I think it will help. Also, next time you post can you write just about yourself, what you are doing, your self analysis, instead of about your W? its about time you concentrate on yourself!