"There are three constants in life... change, choice and principles."-Stephen Covey
As I see it...the basic underlayment of what people go through with affairs is just what Covey mentions. We are forced to face change that is beyond our control. We are then faced with the choice on how to respond to these changes. Eventually we have to review the principles that we value in our hearts and help define how we view the world and live our life's.
The thing with principles is that upon our personal principles we build our personal values. As you find yourself in your time of gal'ing you in essence refind your principles. Some may have been lost and some you could have stuck too....in the end though you find them all again. In doing that you reevaluate your values to support those principles.
Right now your husband is fighting with those refound things because he is accustomed to them not being there. They actually probably scare him a lot. You are no longer the clingy wife he envisions, but instead a new found self. The trick for you is defining if your marriage is a principle for you, how you support it in your values, and how to bring what you are becoming to the marriage table as a point of strength and not an area of fearfulness for him.
