Trying to be still when I really want to scream!

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Thanks for responding DG!
I have so many questions for everyone here. Let me start with a couple. First, my H still wants to be intimate. What are everyone's thoughts on that? At first I thought it would be ok. However I feel now like it might be a mistake. Obviously the emotion for me is much different than it is for him and he is able to just turn the emotion off where I am not. I am scared if I do not continue the intimacy that he will look elsewhere (I still believe that he is not having an affair) or that he will feel that I am rejecting him.

My next question is in relation to my kids. He has pretty much detached from the kids as well. He spends the majority of his time in his room, I'm assuming it's because he doesn't want to be around me. I am trying to give him space to be with the kids without me around, but he just stays in his room. I encourage them to ask him to watch movies with them, play games, etc, but he won't. Should I stop encouraging them to reach out to him?

I know I am in for a long ride, and I am trying to do everything I need to do to make sure I am healthy at the end of this roller coaster ride.