What else could I have done?

[cat03]

ditto... though I can see how much pain it causes you for her to bring it up over and over again. As I read your post this bible verse came to mind "Therefore, I tell you, her sins, which are many, are forgiven, for she loved much; but he who is forgiven little, loves little."
It is important you forgive and move on, it is sad that she can't let go despite having "moving on". She needs to get some C to let go of the anger... my ex never did forgive me for my side of the damage I did to our M, even after he came back, I forgave tons and asked for forgiveness over and over. Some people just hold grudges and there is nothing you can do but hand them over to God and pray they forgive as God has forgiven *them* as well.

Get a hold of "eat, pray and love",might be a chick book, ha ha, but read the part when the author is in India, she struggles to forgive herself and the way she reaches to the conclusion that the only thing she could control was herself, her mind, what she allowed to grow or fester in her brain... how she had to pick her thoughts as she picked her clothes... very carefully.

During the first year I struggled with all the horrible things that had happened (ex had ow with whom he humilliated me over and over). I realized that each time I went to the past and tried to see who's fault was whom, each time I remembered the horrible pain he caused me it was like me putting my hand inside a basket full of broken glass... me attempting to put together the piece of glass, a useless task which only left me with a bleeding arm and lots of hurt, I gained nothing by doing it.

Same thing, force your brain to stay with positive thoughts and unhinged yourself from her toxicity... you asked for forgiveness, God had forgiven you, and that is that.