Living with groundlessness

[AntoniaB]

So...I helped my mom make the whole T-Giving dinner yesterday and have been at my parents' house the past few days. Dad has been terrible to mom and my sisters in a weird way...he is addicted to this online video game, it's a very childish sort of game that he plays against my nephews, 11 and 14. He has ignored me most of the time I've been here. It's like dealing with a 5 year old with a new toy except he's been playing this game for over a year. He just sits there and zones out and won't talk at all to anyone. If you're sitting in another room with him he will just start talking about it.

Anyway after a day and a half of cooking for 10 people, my mom calls him up to dinner last night, and everyone comes and my brother says "I told him not to start a new battle but he did." So he doesn't come. My mom, to her credit, said grace and began dinner...without him. GOOD FOR HER. I never see her stick up for herself. It was yet more passive-aggressive BS from him and she wasn't having it. He complimented (for the most part) what I made for dinner. Then afterward he started eating massive amounts of candy (he's diabetic and he just scarfs down sugar) and then demanded pie before anyone had a chance to clean anything. Mom gives him pie, which she made, and as he just ate super sweet candy, he thinks it tastes wrong so he starts giving thumbs down. He's beyond rude. My sister's husband agrees with him just to be a jerk...and it erupts into like Male vs. Female in here.

The other sister's husband was not here. Why? Because HE got in a fist fight with his brother at T-giving at his dad's house. His mom just died last week and his brother tried to make a good dinner, and my BIL started a fight with him over how he was putting the leftover greenbean casserole away. My sister said her husband was TOTALLY in the wrong on this one and kept saying "You're not supporting me" and started the fight to begin with.

Suffice it to say that through all this drama, I did not even miss XH, and after seeing the way all these men acted (my single for life brother who is 41 was the only respectable male there) I didn't miss being married either.