First of all, thanks so much for serving our country!!
One thing you will see around here is to avoid mind reading. It will only drive you crazy. Take the email as a small positive indicator you are on the right track, and leave it at that. Keep working on yourself and look for other future indicators.
I'm glad you have some appointments set up for when you get back. This is a very good step in improving yourself. I think will get you some mileage in showing your W you are making some changes.
It's good news, too, that you W has agreed to delay the D talks until after the New Year. This will give you more time to work on yourself. Like Val mentioned, DB'ing is also about saving yourself. This is a golden opportunity to work on becoming your best possible self.
I believe this situation could have happened for a much greater purpose than you can imagine. I think you're already taking some good steps to work on yourself. Keep heading in that direction.
