It may seem like your being attacked, you're really not.
Going in and KNOWING how you felt about porn...yeah this is on him.
Anyone saying, "I'll never lie again." is lying, not on purpose, it's just so unlikely. He may do his best not to lie...it is not in your best interest to believe anyone who says that, not 100%.
"Do these jeans make me look fat?"
..yeah...point made.
I was trying to give you a guy (my) perspective on porn. I admit to not know your whole history when I did.
If he knew this going in? Then again this is on him.
Another guy perspective?
Tears are weapons. We cannot defend against them. I'm not saying don't, we have two choices when we see them, apologize profusely, over and over again and say stupid things: "I'll never lie again."
Or we get upset.
...ok that's most guys. There are other options but mostly standard guys unfamiliar with better communication techniques...those two are the top two.
Remind him of what he said, and ask him how you can help him. That's my advice. If it is an addiction he'll need help and support.
I tend to feel that I'm being over simplified here. When he said, "Never lie again", that was in reference to cheating with other women, and yes, the porn.
My h has offered to put a program on the computer that blocks porn. I will leave that entirely up to him. I'm not going to make that decision for him. If he feels he needs that, then he can do that for him.
A friend of mine told me earlier today, "All men look at porn. ALL. Good luck finding a man that doesn't".
So I guess I am to be the one to compromise on porn too, if I want my M bad enough?
