thanks for the replies and the advice, i'll just do something simple...i've done the home made cards before and store bought stuff and embellished those things as well, i've been serious about doing those kinds of things even though we talk about how we don't like them, we both do.
i suppose that my concern is that since she said she doesn't want to talk about OR then me giving her a card that expresses anything more deeply felt than a "hey man, have a great day and some beer." would be taken as more pursuit and clinging. yet those kinds of cards are ones which we both deplore.
it's true that my sitch is pretty unusual, so i'll try to take those things into context.
