PA - Confirmed - Blinkers are off.

[NYCPeter]

Ok - Big night....

W and I watched TV and then went to bed.
She was obviously itching to say something - she asked if I had looked at her iPhone. I didn't say anything...

W - "It was in a different position to where I left it"
W- "So you know".
P - "Yes - I know".
W - "He was just a friend"
P - "Friends don't have sex" (Yes I know I backslid...)
W - "It wasn't like that"
P - "What was it like then?"
W - "Our M was over by then"
P - "Not to my knowledge"

P - "W - I know I created an atmosphere that allowed this to happen"
P - "I want a new M - we've both made mistakes and we have the opportunity to start fresh".
W - "I don't know whether I want to or can".
P - "I understand - it'll be hard work but the rewards at the end are worth it".
W - "I did try"
P - "I know and so have I, but we ave never tried at the same time"
W - "True - but I can't trust that you have changed permenantly"
P - "How will you ever know if you don't hang around to see it"
W - "I don't know if I can".
P - "Well I think it's worth the effort, mant marraiges that go through this come back much stronger" (more backsliding)

I tried to sleep after that - with a lot of difficulty.
Eventually nodded off - woke up at 5:30am, W was for the want of a better word, "getting intimate" with me.
I responded and we had sex - First time in months.
I wouldn't call it ML as it was pretty functional.

This morning we've been pleasant and neither of us have mentioned last night. I think she's almost relieved it's out in the open.

There were some small backsliding in the convo - but hey I'm human.

I don't know what's next - keep up DBing, keep up the 180s and keep the changes going. Consistency, time and patience.

We're off to the in-laws for Thanksgiving dinner, they are staying the night and I'll be playing golf tomorrow.

I don't think she's filed and I don't think she will before the New Year. Tomorrow night should be interesting as the girls will still be at the in-laws and we'll be alone when she comes home from work. I plan on being asleep...