They are oblivious though, that's a very salient issue. They have NOOOOOO clue the damage they're doing. None. Some work well with ultimatums, some don't. Your pain to them, will only stand them in front of a mirror that will show them guilt and shame. So same as the "no I love you" rule... reminding them of that when they're not ready is counter productive.
T:22, M:20 H:55 Me:45 H-OW PA: N/07 OW Jan08 Bomb:Feb/08 S: Apr/08 Back together Ap1/09-Sept/11 Oct, 2011, uncertain future/H is a mess. Dec/11 - Doin'friend mode. Some days are better than others.
