How to get her to try again?

[Abbey]

AJ, I get the living with this, and being in an emotional place that many (even here) can understand. It's like walking a tight rope.

As hard as it is... I might suggest you resist even making the comments you did about "more nights" too. It's too soon. Don't over sell the "buyer" signs she's making. (I'm a sales person).

Affirm, don't suggest. Show, don't tell. Smile instead and nod. Do something small and simple for her at times like this instead. EG: I'm making a cup of tea, did you want one? If she declines... just roll it off your back. Baby steps. Have a few of her favorite things around. Eg: Lemon tea. Hot chocolate. Favorite cookies or something. Something small. Don't over sell it. Include, don't push.

The ups and downs with the OM will ebb and flow. Be prepared for it. Just when you think you've made progress, you'll feel like you've just been dumped in the puddle.

I *understand* what you're doing and why. I've lived it and as good as the DB books are,...there's no perfect recipe for this. Def read that not just friends book. I'll give you pointers on how to "be" that friend that she seeks... and that's where the love begins to grow again.