Who designed this ultramarathon course?

[jbnati]

God bless you, lc4!!

JB,
She had to know that by sending that text message, she was going to upset and anger you.

You'd think so. I had about 5 seconds there where I was about ready to puke. I collected myself, and just kept mowing the grass. You don't send me a text like that when I'm cuttin the grass, because the anger just started to build.

I have no words (well, actually I do, but they aren't very DB, Christian or lady-like of me), so instead, just know that I am praying for you, your son and for your very lost wife.

Thanks lc4. I really appreciate the prayers. And you're right - my W is very lost right now.

She really just doesn't "get" what she's missing out on in you, does she? So, so sad.

No, it doesn't seems she gets it, she not seeing what others are seeing, or she's stuck in the past. Not sure.

[jbnati]

JB sorry you had to experience this. You are stil my hero and an ispiration.

Thanks, Rick.

My D and I had a great time tonite and plan a great weekend together. Our W mean alot to us but we mean nothing to them. That is the hard part. Latetly my W sounds like a Klingon or Mr Spok. I truly don't understand what she is saying..

I'm glad your D and you had a great time tonight. That's what's really important! I think I've heard 25 refer to what our Ws are speaking as "alien spew" I hear ya, man!

I hope u and the little dude have a super Thanksgiving you deserve itV

Thanks, Rick. My S will be with my W tomorrow, though.

[PERSEVERANCE]

JB, sorry to hear this- I feel my blood pressure rising just reading your story. I think that you showed restraint. I'm a newbie, so I don't have words of wisdom for you...just wanted you to know that I'm praying that you find peace and happiness. Take care

[jbnati]

Sorry to hear about all that, J. Definitely infuriating. However, I think you realize at this point that trying to argue with the WAS' point-of-view will get you nowhere. They have their mind made up as to how they're going to act and feel, and the more you attack that view, the more firmly they'll dig their heels in. Frustrating, yes, but it's also human nature to defend when attacked (even if you were doing so with good intentions in regards to your S).

Thanks, WCF. Oh yeah, I know I'm going nowhere fast trying to argue with my W's point of view. I think I did accomplish what I set out to accomplish, and that was to enforce a boundary. I need to stand up for my S, though. I will do anything possible to protect him.

I think my S is seeing the difference of right and wrong. I just wish he wasn't seeing it with his parents.

[jbnati]

JB, sorry to hear this- I feel my blood pressure rising just reading your story. I think that you showed restraint. I'm a newbie, so I don't have words of wisdom for you...just wanted you to know that I'm praying that you find peace and happiness. Take care

Thanks, PERSEVERENCE. I appreciate the prayers. I hope you have a wonderful Thanksgiving. I will check out your situation when I get a chance.

[jbnati]

My W never did pick up my S tonight. She texted around 9:25 and said she was still in another town about 40-50 min. away, and asked if she could pick him up in the morning. I texted back and told her no problem and asked her what time. Later, when my S found out he wasn't spending the night at Mommy's, he got very sad. I texted my W and asked if she wanted to have him tomorrow night instead. She agreed to it and just outright said she would bring him home on Friday morning because she has to work.

My bike is loaded in the car right now. It's supposed to be a nice day tomorrow, weather-wise. There's a chance I won't be here when she comes to pick up my S. I may be out on the bike path burning some frustration and future calories . I have to be back in time to leave about 2.

[PERSEVERANCE]

"When you're going through Hell, keep going."--Winston Churchill--

[workinghardguy]

That suxx JB... I know for a few years, maybe three and four years ago, my W's XH would routinely cancel on getting SS and SD as agreed upon. And it routinely would fall on me to break the news to them since W was working or in school. It always was hard to see their sadness and despair at feeling abandoned and unimportant.

I guess now I realize it was me being taught the valuable lesson of stay true to your commitments to your kids. If you say you're going to pick them up... you better do it barring some type of bona fide emergency.

It's also what motivated me to confront my W about her absenteeism a few months back. I found myself right back to be consoler of kids that I'm not mom or dad to. The bond is different.

If she makes this a habit I would encourage you to confront her. Not mean or with anger, just informational... "When you do X, son exhibits the following behaviors; I thought you should know."

[~¤DG¤~]

JB- I mean this with all due respect. Your W is crazy for letting a man like you go. Honestly.

[Valeska19]

JB,
Sorry this happened so close to the holiday. Talk about awful timing.

I agree alot with what WHG says. I'm sure you weren't prepared for the text (which btw - what a crappy way to communicate it to you)

You have been very kind to your w in regards to this all and I don't want to say you need to stop... but if she is going to continue on this path (which she is completely entitled to) you need to continue to lay boundaries like you did in regards to the pick up.

I'm sure it's typical for a w to do what yours did.. make the conversation about your marriage.. but it's not... it's about your son and what is emotionally best for him.

If she can't get that.. it's her problem. You will continue to do what's best for him.

(((( ))))