I am starting to wonder if W is truely in MLC. She has a good relationship with D, but just wants me out of her life.
The reasons why I think she is in MLC is because:
She acts like a teenager. She is dating a 57 yr. old biker with no future. She parties like there's no tomorrow. She has been having affairs. She wast to be "cordial" but then hands me my butt on a plate. She is very selfish. I got the ILYBINLY bomb two different times.
To qualify during the pregnancy she was acting more grown up and actually thinking about the future. Before the pregnancy she would party a little, but it wasn't too bad.
Maybe my expectations of her changed when he had out kid. i know my expectations of myself sure did. They had to.
I guess maybe it doesn't matter whether it is MLC or not. I have started to detach pretty good now. Part of me wants to just get divorced to move on and completely detach, but I know that no matter what I will still have her in my life and not much will change, except my options for having a relationship with another someday.
She is pretty insistent on getting a D, but has backed off because of the added cost of mediation. I don't have the money for a D, and I don't want to enable her either by doing the dirty work for her.
Just throwing out my thoughts.
M:35 W:33 M: 5 yrs. Daughter: 2 yr .7/11/10 D Final: 8/7/12