I will be with H, my parents, his parents, and our three daughters at my parent's house an hour away. I'm resisting the urge to blow up OW's FB photo and set a place for her.
I may need some type of drug to pull it off...but I intend to be upbeat and have a good time. Our parents have no idea about H's A and I imagine there will be more than a couple awkward parts of the conversation. It would not be unlike my father-in-law to call out my H for his excessive work travel (5-6 days a week for the last 3 months while he's been in his A)...I will just sit and drink my wine.
Happy Thanksgiving! I am thankful for this board and having a place to vent.
M: 43 H: 45 M: 12 years, T 14 years D10, D8, D4 A started 8/2011 Discovered 9/15/2011 Continues...
M 44, H 46 D11, D9, D5 Married 12 years PA confirmed 9/2011 I filed 3/2012 H moved out 7/2012
My W is taking S to her grandparents. This is my first Thanksgiving off from work in 4 years, and now I have no plans. My Dad doesn't celebrate Thanksgiving anymore due to my Step-Mom passing away the day before 9 years ago. My mother will be at my cousins, 2 brothers are across the country and sister is in another state and can't make it home either. Really not sure I could celebrate Thanksgiving without my S. So my only plans are exercise and organizing the basement.
M 33 W 29 S 4 M 5 T 7 11/7/11 Separation, W moves in with parents 12/1/11 W: "IDLY, I'm not coming back, it's over" 1/7/12 D Bomb Dropped
When we were a couple STBX and I traded off holiday celebrations with one of the SILs that are local. We would do Thanksgiving; she would do Christmas, and then switch the next year.
STBX and I have been invited to both celebrations this year. It is an even money guess if STBX will attend. I on the other hand will attend. I will treat this as an opportunity to demonstrate my character in the face of the events of the last year.
My sister will arrive for a week’s visit with mom the week following and we will have another more intimate gathering while she is in town.
BITS Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55 D 30 S 27
You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill
I'll be spending the day with D, my parents and my brother's family. I decided to do something a little different this year and try a new recipe or two to break me out of the funk. I also got that dance game for the xbox- should be a hoot to see us all make fools of ourselves!
My XH's mom used to do something I thought was cool. She and XH's dad were D, and she knew by the time we made all the rounds to see his family and mine we were over turkey. She started her own tradition of crab legs instead. I always thought that was a unique and thoughtful idea!
Hoping and praying for peaceful, happy holiday for all!
Something that I've been thinking a lot about is how our kids and grandkids don't play the old games we played back in the dark ages. If the weather permits and there is more than just one other person, it might be different to pass along the games people use to play. There are a ton of games to be played indoors, too, but it's just fun to get outdoors and run some that turkey off the belly!
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
I'm visiting my S at my W's parent's place where she has been staying. Her grandmother asked if I was coming and after some thought I decided to visit. Can't say no to great food and being able to see my little dude stuff his face with turkey! It'll be the second Thanksgiving since she left. The wound still hurts but I will face it like any other day because I'm still thankful for the love we shared and the son it bore us.
I am also thankful for all on this board who has helped not just in my sitch, but have spread their wisdom and learning in others posts and in their lives as well. We are truly a giving group so let's continue that as we continue our journey towards a better tomorrow!
Hope everyone has a happy and blessed thanksgiving!
