I ended up calling my W. I probably backslid on the DB'ing, but this involved my S and I was absolutely livid, TBH. The conversation went something like this (it may be a little out of order):
jb: I got your text. I think we need to make some other arrangements. w: Why? jb: I don't appreciate you exposing my S to this. It really upsets him. w: Well, he's just going to have to get used to this. Mommy and Daddy aren't together anymore. This is where I start to lose it. jb: What do you think you're showing our S right now? w: I don't appreciate you telling S you'd be happier if Mommy were back together. jb: I never said that. S asks questions and I answer him truthfully. I am trying to show him what the right thing to do is. w: And what is that right thing? To not date because of a piece of paper? jb: No. That's not what I'm staying. It not a about a piece of paper. I made a promise and I made a promise to the Lord. w: Are you saying you are going to take my S from me because I am not showing him Christian values? It's my decision if I choose Christianity or not and it's my decision if choose to live a Christian life. jb: Yes, it is your decision. It's not my decision, though. I am trying to teach my S the right way. w: So you mean we should stay together in an unhappy M until he's 18? jb: You can't honestly say you tried everything to save this thing. w: Oh yes I can! We were in counseling for two years and we didn't get anywhere. jb: You're showing our S it easier to cut and run than to work than to work on your problems. How's that going to affect his future relationships? w: I am teaching him it's better to change things up when things aren't working. jb: (just pacing at this point. I knew I was going down a cheeseless tunnel - my opinion she went to counseling and didn't expend very much effort) jb: That's your opinion. I disagree strongly with it. But I guess we're just going to have to agree to disagree on that one.
That's the gist of it.
She called back later and she said I could bring S down later, she could pick him up later or she could just pick him up in the morning. We agreed she could pick him up later.
I need to go out on a quick 8.6 mi. bike ride, and I need to do it now.
