I really want my wife to feel more validated and respected....but I don't want to appear to pursue her. I don't want to chase her away or make her uncomfortable. Any suggestions?

I keep re-reading the email from my wife..."You sound much healthier emotionally and mentally and it makes me happier than you could ever know" She ended the email with Love... which is something I haven't seen in a while.Yup, I'm over analying it...just hanging on to hope.

Our emails since then have been pretty friendly,brief- mostly business (cars,kids,house)...no "Love" or "R" talk. She hasn't brought up the D or L topic, although I'm sure she hasn't changed her mind...especially since her IC seems pro-divorce.

I'll call Thursday & wish everyone a Happy Thanksgiving. I should be home from Afghanistan in a couple of weeks. Sounds like my W is planning a small party when I return. The gesture is very sweet. Nobody knows that we are having M problems, so hopefully being around other couples etc doesn't make her feel strange... Could this be an "olive branch"... Again, wishful thinking/ Hoping.
I'll continue with my self-improvement & GAL plans. Lonely & sad being away from them for T-giving...at least I should be home for Christmas.
Happy Thanksgiving Everyone & I wish everyone peace and happiness.

(F.K.A. Broken422)

US 40's
M 17,T 19
2 BOYS 13,16
Divorced 4/2012
11/2011 W SAID SHE WANTS D

"When it is dark enough,you can see the stars"- Ralph Waldo Emerson