It may seem like your being attacked, you're really not.
Going in and KNOWING how you felt about porn...yeah this is on him.
Anyone saying, "I'll never lie again." is lying, not on purpose, it's just so unlikely. He may do his best not to lie...it is not in your best interest to believe anyone who says that, not 100%.
"Do these jeans make me look fat?"
..yeah...point made.
I was trying to give you a guy (my) perspective on porn. I admit to not know your whole history when I did.
If he knew this going in? Then again this is on him.
Another guy perspective?
Tears are weapons. We cannot defend against them. I'm not saying don't, we have two choices when we see them, apologize profusely, over and over again and say stupid things: "I'll never lie again."
Or we get upset.
...ok that's most guys. There are other options but mostly standard guys unfamiliar with better communication techniques...those two are the top two.
Remind him of what he said, and ask him how you can help him. That's my advice. If it is an addiction he'll need help and support.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
