Feel like I'm living the movie Groundhog Day...

[workinghardguy]

So one thing I was proud of myself for this morning is not owning her feelings. My W is obviously unhappy right now, more so than usual. I found myself going right back to old behaviors. Wondering if it was something I did to make her mad. Then wondering if it wasn't me what was it that is setting her off and how can I fix whatever it is.

Then I caught myself. It's not my fault she's mad, and if it is then she needs to be a big girl and tell me so I can decide whether to change that behavior or rectify the grievance. And if it's something else... then she needs to deal with it. If she wants my help she can ask. It's not my job to save her or make sure she always feels happy.

I also thought of three more solutions to her problem of how she could find enough money to get a new place set up. You see I'm a problem-solver and pretty creative... but I'm not going to offer any of those solutions to her. That's a 180 for me... she has a problem created by her own actions, she will just have to figure out a solution to it.