DBing against OW...?????

[imthemom]

I am finally switching to this forum in hopes of getting advice on how to handle OW and DBing at the same time..
I have threads going on Newcomers under Alcoholic H but am realizing that my main difficulty is the fact that H has OW and I just dont have any experience with this kind of situation and dont know when I am handling it the right way or just epically screwing it up...

I know that everyone on this board is having a difficult time with the holidays comeing up, I am a little shocked at how hard of a time I am having with it. It feels like I have done a huge back slide and am feeling sad and frustrated and dwelling on the fact that he must be spending all this time with her . How do you handle that...when they choose OW over family especially for a holiday or just life in general.

HOw do you stop yourself from all the wondering what they are doing and images in your head???? I had been doing so well and suddenly it feels like im right back were I was feeling abandonded and left behind while he goes off to enjoy his happy little life and Im here to deal with our S14s pain and mine as well.

The selfishness they display is beyond reasoning.....

I dont know how to attach my older threads but would love some feedback from people dealing with the OW sitch...Im really haveing a hard time...