"unless putting lights up has traditionally been your w's thing and she might get upset if you did it, DO THEM...especially if it is your thing or a joint thing."
25 I always did the outside and W did the inside. I will do the outside again, usually on Thanksgiving. if W does not do the tree inside than I will especially since D wants it.
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
I am at the point in my sitch, (going on 5 weeks since w left), and getting near the holidays, when I am having conflicting thoughts about whether I want to spend the holidays with friends or family, or by myself up at my brothers cabin in the woods.
gunny, I say you just do what feels right to you and/or what you feel like doing. Maybe you could mix up a bit, too? Get a good mixture of spending time with people versus getting in some solitary time, too. I can see how even the solitary time could be considered GAL'ing in your case.
sorry but I really say NO WAY to the cabin idea...geez, how is that GAL? You are too alone. At least NOT ON Thanksgiving. You must push yourself to be with people.
You will not regret it.
Later on if you want the solitude then maybe.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
good morning 25, Thank you for your advice. As I said, I have been conflicted, because I really dont want to take away from anyone else enjoying their holiday, and right now, although I usually put on a good front, I am in no way, shape, or form in the mood for celebrating.
Having said that, I have pretty much determined that I will spend the morning hiking along the Delaware and then swing by my other brother's place for dinner. I will play it by ear after that.
Boy, this seperation thing is really tough. I greatly appreciate you stopping in with advice, and I hope you and your family have a great holiday!!
m 54 XW 48 m 12 t 14 bomb 6-11 s 10-11 wife moved to other state 10-21-11 d 9-12
O GOD THY SEA IS SO GREAT AND MY BOAT IS SO SMALL!
Gunny hang in there. It will get better. My W really does not have much of a family and her parents don't celebrate anything unless I invited them. So she will be alone next year with my D. I can always go to my bros house and have some fun. Try and make the best of it. I tell you that I feel stronger everyday. Not sure why but I do. Have a great holiday buddy.
PS: weather should be great tomorrow. good for flying and hiking.
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
Hey Gunny, I saw you post on other threads but nothing here. Hope all is well and that you spent the holiday with friends and not alone as you were considering.
Me51 W53 S17 S14 M22 T25 Bomb-9/11; A-11/11; I move out 11/11
It's easy to find our bottom, it is our top that requires cultivation.
Every rough spot adds to our emotional constitution. -Barney Fife
