FWIW I thought the guys who posted to you about porn were insensitive and a bit ignorant about the pornography issue. It is not the other partner's 'fault' if someone looks at porn. Porn is not a bit of nudity or fun. It is what depersonalises sex and intimacy, and is very destructive of relationships. many theraaists spend a lot of time dealing with the fall out from porn users.
It can be a very male response [and not all men i hasten to add before there are lots of posts about this] to suggest that porn is harmless 'fun'. If you are upset by it that is enough.
Emotional abuse, like physical abuse lies in the abuser blaming the abused 'you made me do it'. That frankly is a load of horse manure. Your h has problems which it sounds as if he is trying to deal with, but is ashamed and backsliding.
We all of us have to look at ourselves, and take responsibility for our behaviour. However contrary to popular belief problems in marriages are not invariably 50/50/ Sometimes one partner is damaged and damaging. That is what MLC is about.
I am so sorry for what you are going through, and sorry to for any posters who have caused to feel worse about the situation.
