Til you mentioned the T shirt with OMs name on it, I thought, "well she's coming around awfully fast."
And I guess it is, too fast. She's so not ready for a reconcilaition.
She's just ready to feel better about herself.
Who knows what the T shirt pic means? Did you say she posted it Sat? How odd...then again, the "I MISS YOU", imo
was based on her emotions of THAT MOMENT IN TIME, and she gave into it, thinking
"no harm done...I'm being nice to MTS...I'm reaching out..."
but in reality she's yanking the chain. It meant much less to her, at least conscously, than it did to you.
Maybe later MUCH- after she feels she misses you a lot, and mostly you, or only you THEN we'll see a difference...
In hindsight you were right not to respond. I'm disappointed she has feigned such growth to friends, only to ACT the same.
But then again, we are all sort of mind reading. Who knows what SHE meant by the notes?
She may feel that she "Didn't handle CERTAIN parts of it right'....really?
Makes me want to ask her, "Which parts??" But to HER that's serious insight! truly humbling...
like It's a big fat huge leap, rather than the merest glance backward.
But she may see the light someday.
MTS-here's the thing, and you probably do know it...Unless you move on, two bad things will happen.
You will stay stuck in this painful in between 'no man's land" of no movement
and SHE won't get to see you move on.
This is KEY to HER movement internally which may stink for you,
but if she believes her "old buddy ex h" is still and always pining away for her eternally and that no one else could ever catch your eye or attention
she'll take her dang time waking up. And I don't know that you will want her then
but I know it'll never happen & you won't know the answer to that, if she doesn't ever wake up and you don't explore living well without her.
If i were your friends, I'd be staring at that message and the T shirt pic and shake my head. I'd probably want to ask her WTH she's talking about but I guess the best thing to say is more like
"got your message. I'm sure there's a perfect reply to it, that would say all that ought to be said...but it escapes me at this time."
Glad you are GAL so well. As others have said, trust yourself and the Big Guy.
HE will lead you and if a woman who's suitable
(man, I need a better word for that b/c I bet they're hot and warm and loving...AND "Suitable!)
but don't forget that meeting a good woman MIGHT be a gift from HIM...don't turn from all of them too quickly but know that a
great woman right now may not be necessarily THE ONE but maybe a good person for you to know in your life right now.
And yes, there really are other fish in the sea. And your ex wife, (sorry but yes, that's what she is my friend, an EX)
for now, she's not something you want to reel in. She's not a keeper at this time.
Have a blessed holiday.
((( )))
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
