IMO, your h sounds as if he needs help. Did you say he was already back from a deployment?
Has he ever been seen for post traumatic stress?
The military is truly trying hard to address the multi dimensional aspects of it, including YOU and your son.
Get some help for YOU - and maybe your h will for him.
You only control you and you must watch out for your son.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016