I am so glad to see that you are still GAL-ing like a boss. Keep that up. I feel like a light-weight next to you!

Definitely don't waste your time looking at her social media. I think you now realize that it will hurt a hell of a lot more than it will help. (If it helps at all, which I doubt that it does.)

I also feel like you're still expecting a logical response from your W. "If W texts 'I miss u", then why is she with OM in those pics?" "If A=B, then why does A=C instead?" There is a reason why we like to say that WAS' are "spinning." They are in a place where they have no room for logic. Stay off her roller coaster, man.

I'm at the same stage with you when it comes to a future with your W. Feeling that maybe you're done. Looking at other women who won't treat you like dirt and maybe might even be better for you than W. "Why am I waiting for something that's looking like it won't even happen?"

I guess only you can know in your heart what the answer to that is when it is time to know. I myself have not yet completely given up and moved on, but who knows what the future will bring for either one of us?

Hang in there, bud. God will show you the way. He is making you stronger even though it may only feel like you're getting put through the grinder of life.


Us: mid-20s
T: 5.5 yrs
M: 2 yrs
S + OM: 6/21/11
Legally S'd: 9/9/11

In this life, you have a limited amount of mental currency. You get what you pay for, so spend it wisely.

So it goes. --Kurt Vonnegut