I'll echo Paige... living with my W right now is tough slogging. Just being around me creates stress for her and I'm being as non-pursuing, low-key, affirming as I can be. Some days are better than others and the last two have been hard, so that's my frame of reference. It's only recently that I've started thinking apart would be better...
Married 6 together 8 Me:38 W:31 second marriage for both SS12, SD10, S6 Bomb: 9/8/11 (day before our 5 yr ann) W moved out: 2/18/12 D final: 11/12/12 Share S 50/50. Spend as much time as I can with SS & SD