The "peacocking" seems very transparent to me. It's one thing if she happens to run into you somewhere and you're dressed up and smell good. I would be cautious about doing it when it's obvious you're directly trying to impress her. Personally I wouldn't do it. I'd look good, but not too good if you know what I mean.
Being friendly is good. If W is complaining that you're making her uncomfortable, lingering, etc. you might try backing off. I'm not saying don't be friendly, just engage less. If you used to start 3 conversations, start 2 for now, then maybe start 1 in each interaction. Keep them light and topical, and end the conversation first.
Also, be careful -- if you tell your wife her dinner smells good and you're hanging around, she may think you're trying to solicit an invite. You don't want to give that impression.
From everything I've read, it's a good idea to be LESS TRANSPARENT and more mysterious. Make her wonder what you're up to, don't volunteer it. Don't talk about what you're thinking or feeling, keep it topical. Make conversation like you would with a casual acquaintance.
Once again, not easy. Nothing about this is easy. The goal is to be consistent though. Keep trying to detach and don't pursue!
Accuray
Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11 Start Reconcile: 8/15/11 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced) In a New Relationship: 3/2015
