Ajay, I'm so sorry you are having a hard time of it. I wish I could answer your question of why people are so cruel. Maybe it's b/c there is a tiny part of us that's just born in us, but most times, we are able to overcome the bad, IDK.
I've read some of the other LBH's explain how that sometimes they just have to embrace the pain in order to get through it. I guess whatever it takes for the individual. I can't pretend to know how you feel, since I've not been in your shoes. I do care, however, and I know everyone on this board cares. Maybe if you just keep reading other threads, it may help get you through the night.
But I do want to caution you about the last part of your post. Do not tell your W anything.....ANYTHING....until you get legal advice. I know you don't care, right now. But you could really mess yourself up for a long time by acting out of these strong emotions. Yes, you love her more than anything on earth, but by the time she's through with you....it may be a different story. I think MWD suggests that we go at least 72 hours before acting on anything of this level importance. So don't talk to her tonight. Don't tell her anything when you're this low, okay?
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How about my reaction to her if she bothers to get in touch ever again? Treat it as if it makes no odds or tell her what I really think?
It depends upon what she has to say when she contacts you. I would not say that you should tell her it makes no matter to you, b/c when it comes to legal matters, etc., then she should be talked to from the level of calm sternness, and in order that she makes no mistake, she sees you as a strong, decisive man and won't be run over.
As for what she does in her life that doesn't change you financially, then act as if you don't care. It kind of sounds as if she wants to goad you by telling you how much she is spending. Have you separated your bank account from hers? If not, I STRONGLY advise you to do so. Remember, this is not the girl you M, and you can't underestimate what she's capable of doing.
This advice is not intended to make you mean to her. It is to save you, and hopefully, save the M. I don't know what happens to make women change into something totally opposite from what she used to be. But, I know that most WAW has to be shown a certain amount of tough love from the man she is trying to walk all over. Trust me, if you told her tonight what you said in your last paragraph......you would not be one bit closer to her. She would make your life even more miserable than it is right now.
((Ajay))
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
