It's life, but not as I knew it (HOswald, part 3)

[wawinla]

I appreciate the mindset that thinks that every marriage is worth saving. But I have tried appeasement, counseling, DB phone consultations, mediation, "going dark", "last resort", any damn thing I could think of. The results are the same: she is "done" with the relationship and is "entitled" to anything she can get under the law.

Hos:

I hope you're doing well despite the latest circumstances.

As Green Blue pointed out early in the process, our sitx are similar. You recapped my current sitx to the tee. I get to experience more of that this evening when we try to meet and discuss the marriage settlement agreement.

My WAW has no interest in marriage counseling and DB tactics have not been fruitful. Mediation and lawyers are in the horizon, so quite a picnic coming down the pike for me.

The most frustrating part is the cognitive distortions in regards to the R/M. The magnifying or minimizing a memory or situation such that it no longer corresponds to objective reality or the mental filtering focused only on the negative...there is no success in piercing through the fog.

I feel your sadness about what could have been and send you positive thoughts your direction. You've handle yourself with dignity through the process so my compliments to you. Hang in there as the unwinding process continues.

Happy Thanksgiving!