Thanks Trying for your comments. The OM in my situation is single as well. I totally agree with you that as long as he is still in the picture in some form then there will be no chance for my wife and I to work on our relationship.
I know that the PA part of their relationship is over but I strongly believe that the EA part continues on. As long as they have daily contact, their relationship will continue. The question I keep asking myself is how much longer am I going to accept this. I look back at the last two years and hope that they have not been wasted. They are two years that could have been spent developing a new relationship and a new life.
It sounds like you have landed in a good place and are there because you finally made a stand and forced your ex-wife to make a decision. At some point, I am going to have to do the same.
