When it comes to matters between you and her, you don't have to hang out with her. However when it comes to the kids, you should think of them first.
It is admirable that you are doing 180s, however there is a time and place for them. In this circumstance IMO you should spend the holidays with your kids.
You are mistaking detaching with lack of contact. Detaching means that you detach your emotions from the situation, not really physically. Right now your first priority is for yourself and your kids. Do you really want to pass up a Thanksgiving with them? Forget about your inlaws or whatever for a minute. Regardless of what, they will still be in your kids' lives. You can be a man of strength and face this head on, or you can avoid it because it feels "uncomfortable".
"Going over to her place, right now, would make everything awkward rather than enjoyable. "
It wouldn't make "everything" awkward. YOU would just feel awkward. And who says that you can't get yourself to enjoy it?
"I agree, but at some point I am going to have to do things with the kids and her. "
No better time than the present. The holidays are a good time to do something together because there is no one to one pressure. You are there to celebrate being together (even if its just with the kids).
Plus if you want her to see the new you, show her that you're not afraid. You are your own man.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
