What do I do next? Part 2

[MrBond]

Go ahead and vent on here. It's what this forum is made for. Now you know why DR mentions not to get friends and/or family involved. You'll find that they do take sides.

Stop mentioning and thinking about the things that your W wants, right now because when the OM is in the picture, she doesn't want you. Continue to concentrate on what YOU want. As for the kids, they are your kids as well, she does not have a monopoly on them. If you want them, fight for them.