Once again - thank you so much Sandi (and Harrier!). You are both right. I know that making the changes are good for me - especially considering that she has moved out. However, the line turns a bit grey once I factor in the fact that one of her complaints has been "you are too plugged in and don't get out enough". Hence, I want to make that a 180 - and I SHOULD make that a 180, but I also don't want it to go fully unnoticed.
Sandi - you are very right that it is hard to stay upbeat when a lawyer enters the picture. However, I find that I can put the lawyer out of my head as long as I don't hear from him. Hence, I have been intentionally positive and upbeat in my text messages (even though it is a big "as if"). That has kept them mostly neutral to slightly positive. I even dared to make a joke in one today.
As for frequency, I try not to be the first to text. I cast that rule aside for things that have to do with our son (which is the subject of most of our texts). And again, I try to be very positive and let her know what our son and I are up to when we are together.
I have another post regarding "progress" that I would love for you to review and get your input on - thus far no one has remarked.
